By Oriane Kets de Vries, 2025
As CEO of KDVI and an INSEAD alumna, I had the privilege of introducing my father, Manfred Kets de Vries, at this week’s event at La Sorbonne organised by the French INSEAD Alumni Association. The gathering brought together Manfred, Professor Roger Lehman, and many of their former students and colleagues for a discussion on leadership and change.
Drawing from five decades of working at the intersection of economics and psychoanalysis, researching, writing, coaching, and consulting, Manfred reminded us that soft issues are often the harder issues in leadership. He stated that leadership transformation starts within, beginning with the courage to examine ourselves, understand our behavioural and relationship patterns, and embrace feedback for continuous learning. Understanding the dynamics of leadership, teams, and culture is essential to create effective organisations.
In today’s workplace, where only 23% of employees are engaged and two-thirds experience anxiety and depression (costing the global economy $8.8 trillion annually), traditional management approaches fall short.
A lack of self-awareness and emotional intelligence among senior executives can impede organisational success. EQ is the ability to understand and manage one’s emotions while recognising others’ emotions and managing relationships effectively. Successful leaders require awareness of both their own motivators and those of others. Leaders with low EQ may exhibit several problematic behaviours:
- Narcissistic tendencies that compromise decision-making
- Excessive focus on public image while neglecting core management duties
- Difficulty prioritising and making tough decisions
- Conflict avoidance or decision paralysis
- Micromanagement and inability to delegate
- Struggle to inspire and motivate teams effectively
Manfred spoke about the Clinical Paradigm, which puts forward five key guiding concepts for working with leaders:
- Human behaviour is complex, with much occurring beyond conscious awareness. We need to look deeper than what’s immediately visible.
- Seemingly irrational behaviour often follows a hidden logic. Underlying motivations may require careful investigation to uncover.
- Our behaviour is driven by interconnected motivational systems that link our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Particularly in leadership, understanding and managing emotions (emotional intelligence) is crucial for effectiveness.
- Everyone, including leaders, has imperfections and blind spots in their personality. These “dark sides” can cause significant problems if left unacknowledged or unaddressed.
- Our past experiences, especially early developmental experiences, significantly shape our present behaviour. We often unconsciously repeat patterns established earlier in life.
Manfred also introduced the concept of “authentizotic” organisations (from Greek authenteekos – true to values, and zoteekos – vital to life), which provides a model for modern workplaces. These organisations are characterised by:
- A compelling mission beyond profit
- Genuine alignment between values and practices
- Strong trust and respect between leadership and employees
- Collaborative rather than competitive culture
- High-quality workplace relationships
- Fair treatment and compensation
- Open communication without fear of reprisal
- Active recognition of employee contributions
- Continuous learning opportunities
- Transparent information flow
- Support for work-life balance
Organisations embracing these principles typically see lower employee turnover, better talent attraction, better customer service, stronger financial performance, higher employee engagement and fulfilment and overall organisational effectiveness. Coaching and fostering trust within leadership teams lead to better collaboration and accountability, which are essential for overcoming silos and advancing collective goals.
Manfred’s ideas and approaches help KDVI move beyond superficial quick fixes to create lasting behavioural change in leaders and organisations through top team interventions, leadership development, and culture transformation work. Our mission remains clear: helping leaders develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence and to help them create workplaces where people feel truly alive and perform at their best.